The Blog of hardtimes

I never realised that you had to make an appointment to register a death!

I went on Tuesday with my oldest son, it took less time to register Si's death than it did to register him born, SAD!

They dealt with the Blue Badge for us and advised us on the next steps to take, they also gave us the paperwork for DHSS disability people and the certificate for the undertakers.

Wednesday I phoned all the benefits offices, and carers allowance people to cancel out our payments and si's,also the Council to stop the council tax benefit,  [ if you are a couple looking after a disabled person you get a reduction albeit small in your council tax].

Also phoned council body re; next doors hedge, told him date of funeral and said I wanted it to look respectable for Si's funeral, thought we deserved a little respect for a change, he promised it would be done, and true to his word he paid them a visit on Friday, Saturday morning much to my surprise, I heard hedge cutters going, it's not perfect and they  haven't finished it but the road side is cut and cleaned away. So I haven't got any grumbles about that.

Wednesday, ordered the flowers,, Kids did thiers on Tuesday, thiers is a football shirt [Liverpool of course] and ours is 4 aces with the Diamond in the front. Daughters friends mother is a florist so got a little discount on them.

Friday I emptied Si's account at the bank, [I was advised to do this ] Then I closed his account, it was quite painless,and it makes life  easier when DHSS wants the last payment back. All other accounts have been dealt with exept 1, which I will be able to deal with through the other bank account for Direct Payments.

We have received about 50 sympathy cards,which is lovely to think so many people are thinking about Si and us.

Also had some flowers, 1, even got sent from Afrika,[ Dad's friends,] I feel quite Humble at all the lovely things people have written, also we have had some of the "memories" in from couple of the children that loved Si, [his friends kids and his other step-sister].

I have written the service and Rob[hubby] has printed them 50 in all x5 sheets put spines on and put them in plastic covers, On Friday spoke to the Celebrant who will conduct the service, She thought what I wrote was very nice and she will add a bit more, a few memories and a poem.

The kids have all chipped in and paid for the venue.

My nephew and a few of his mates are going to lead off on motorbikes, that been sorted, so it will be quite a good send off.

Motorbikes, Hearst with Si in, 1st Limo,Me Hubby and kids, 2nd Limo for the 3 sets grandparents and the biological one. then all the other cars to follow, he will be walked out of the road, respectfully, and then to the crematorium. 

His friend has done the music:

Axle F [ drove me nuts with this as a kid, playing it on the keyboard]

Ape Man-Kinks [Si loved this  and was always singing it]

You'll never walk alone.- Gerry and the Pacemakers[Liverpool anthem]

So that's about it at the moment have been buying in plates and stuff to put the food on and in, and that's all that's left to do really, I've made a list of food stuffs and amounts required, have an army of volanteers to do the food, catering for about 100+.

Unless  anyone out there know what else I should be doing????????????

Still haven't cried really, had a few tears and I know that I need to, but I have so much to organise it's good that I am busy at the moment.

So That's my diary up to date, other than I sent the witches mother the obituary notice and told her she should over-ride her daughter and tell the kids herself! so they can send a letter to thier daddy before it's too late.